After exploring more about this Anonymous Campus and reading a few comments, I noticed something: people can share love, but they themselves won’t accept it. I am planning to create a five-part series on how you can take, understand, initiate, seek, and show love. I highly suggest you read this post, but ultimately, it’s up to you. Your choice matters, and I hope you choose the right one.
Greetings, lovely people! Let’s embark on the first step of our journey, which is loving yourself, guiding you toward a more loving community.
Firstly, who are you trying to impress? Who are you seeking confirmation from that you are cool, you are beautiful, you are worthy? Is it someone else, or is it you yourself?
Let me provide an example: When I compliment my friends, they often respond with, “No, stop lying! Look at her/him, she/he looks so much better than me. I look fat and ugly.” WHEN will we stop justifying and pleasing others, seeking external validation for our worth, which we should inherently know comes from within ourselves? If the feeling of self-doubt didn’t exist, we wouldn’t feel the need to compare ourselves, thinking, “If they are good, I must be bad. If they succeed, I must fail.” When will this cycle END?
If you consistently dismiss the love and validation from those who genuinely care about you, while only seeking internal validation through comparisons with others, how do you think others will react when you try to love them?
Now, let’s discuss the word “taught.” You might say, “I studied so hard, yet I forgot everything during my exams.” Will you remember tomorrow when you wake up, “Yes, I am ugly, I am worthless”? Most of us would, and why is that? It’s because as individuals, we are often worried about the things what others think, and it becomes the only thing we want to remember. So, ask yourself, why won’t you forget the things you learned for exams if your mind and heart are constantly focused on comparison than studies?
Now, consider this: Do you truly love yourself, or are you trapped in a loop of self-comparison day after day, month after month, year after year?
If you find yourself asking, “What should I do? How do I love myself?” Well, that’s up to you. Do you want to love yourself? If yes, then you are the only person who knows how to do that. Have a conversation with yourself, ask why you can’t love yourself, because you, yourself, hold the answer to that question.